Introverts are not disqualified from enjoying murder mystery dinner parties. In fact, some of the most dazzling character portrayals I’ve seen have come from ‘shy’ or ‘quiet’ people!
Audrey Hepburn, Keanu Reeves, Jessica Chastain, Johnny Depp, Nicole Kidman – these are just some of the names of famous actors who, contrary to popular belief, have described themselves as introverted and sometimes rather shy. This is proof that introverts and shy people can learn to enjoy acting and, of course, a good murder mystery dinner too!
And if you needed more proof than some famous actors’ names, I am actually an introvert, too!
I have gotten into plenty of disagreements with people who try to insist that I am an extrovert, but I have to remind myself that they often don’t know about my introvert journey. They have only seen the version of me who has upgraded her social skills and learned that ‘fake it til you make it’ mantra is a legitimate life skill!
Understanding introverts
If you would like a more in-depth read on introverts, try this article from Psychology Today on Understanding Introverts.
While introverts can broadly be described as people who recharge when they spend time alone, many people with quieter personalities tend to feel uncomfortable in the spotlight. The advantage, or difference, with a murder mystery game is that everybody is given the opportunity to step into another person’s skin, so to speak. In a way, it can be seen as a safe and controlled form of role-playing, allowing introverted individuals to explore new personas without the anxiety of being judged or standing out in a group.
For introverts who struggle with small talk and social interactions, murder mystery games provide a structured environment where they can interact with others in a more structured manner. The game itself serves as a common ground for all players, making it easier to initiate conversations and engage in discussions.
Role-playing also allows introverts to break out of their usual comfort zones and try on different personalities. This can be an empowering experience for those who may feel overshadowed or overlooked in their daily lives. It gives them the chance to take on bold or assertive roles that they may not normally have the opportunity to play.
In addition, murder mystery games provide a sense of purpose and direction for introverts who may struggle with social situations. The game provides a clear set of objectives and tasks, giving players a specific role to fulfil and allowing them to focus on achieving their goals instead of worrying about social interactions.
For those who may feel anxious or self-conscious in groups, murder mystery games provide an escape from that pressure. Instead of being themselves and feeling judged, players can fully immerse themselves in their characters and let go of any insecurities. This allows them to fully enjoy the game without fear of judgment or awkwardness.
Furthermore, murder mystery games often involve problem-solving and critical thinking skills, which are strengths commonly associated with introverts.
When you show up to participate in a murder mystery dinner, you’re not there as yourself. And that’s the key.
My Murder Mystery Guide Experiences are designed so that you can participate as much or as little as you would prefer. There’s no script, so as long as you have a handful of louder guests, more introverted guests can relax and enjoy the interactions happening around them.
While you can’t say absolutely nothing all night, it is possible to play the game and say as little as you’d like.
Rebecca Meissner is a brilliant wedding photographer and a good friend who, in this video, shares her experience of being a guest at two of my custom-made murder mystery dinners. She’s such a delight and really relates with people who sometimes feel a bit shy about having to act, but is full of encouragement for quieter people who are considering attending a murder mystery dinner.
Have a watch!
